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Thursday, January 8, 2009

Telling him

My son just got out from school and I told him that grandma might be spending sometime with us when Mommy comes back next week from Hong Kong. He asked me immediately then who is going to take care of Grandpa. Is it going to be Jesus? I told him yea. I guess long before we realize it, children become aware of death. They see dead birds, insects, and animals lying by the road. They may see death at least once a day on television. They hear about it in fairy tales and act it out in their play. Death is a part of life, and children, at some level, are aware of it.

If we permit children to talk to us about death, we can give them needed information, prepare them for a crisis, and help them when they are upset. We can encourage their communication by showing interest in and respect for what they have to say. We can also make it easier for them to talk to us if we are open, honest, and comfortable with our own feelings - often easier said than done. Perhaps we can make it easier for ourselves and our children if we take a closer look at some of the problems that might make communication difficult.

1 comment:

Jan said...

Thoughtful post. Children usually surprise us adults with how much they know about life's pressing issues. We have the tendency to cocoon them unnecessarily from perceived harm, when the sensible tack is to make it easier for them to talk with us honestly and openly so they may be best prepared and able to cope with life's problems.