Friday, February 6, 2009
It's your child again
If you have ever noticed your child intentionally hitting or pushing another child, this could be a sign of bullying. The best thing to do, to find out if your child is doing bullying, is to ask them. Note their responses and begin to probe more and watch for behavior that could signal violent outbursts and things that could get your child into trouble. If you have noticed that your child has ever ganged up with another one of his friends to hurt someone, this could also be a sign of bullying. If you note your child's behavior to be violent of erratic, this could be another sign of bullying.
If you have ever noticed your child calling other kids names or excluding them from social activities, this could be yet another signal of bullying. If your child is a bully then they will probably use a number of different methods to humiliate other children in order to get them to submit to your child's will. Watch out for malicious behavior and other acts of cruelty coming from your child.
If you ever catch your child teasing, this could be a sign of bullying. This could be a sign of bullying, if they are directing it at other children that they are not friends with. Teasing can be ok within small groups of peers, but if you notice this coming from your child frequently and being directed to other kids, this is a sign of bullying. You should make sure that you tell your child this is unacceptable and show them the right way to act and behave.
What to Do If Your Child is a Bully: Don’t Belittle
Even though you don’t want your child to be a bully, there is no reason to turn the tables. Many parents feel that they can tease, taunt and belittle their children to show them what a bullied child feels like, but this is counter-productive. Instead, explain how the bullied child must feel; be descriptive and passionate enough to make an impression.
What to Do If Your Child is a Bully: Punish
If the bullying behavior continues after your talk, don’t be afraid to punish your child. Just because you haven’t seen the behavior for yourself doesn’t mean that your child shouldn’t be held accountable. Explain that until he or she learns to treat others with respect, television and video games don’t need to be a part of his or her life.